Betrayal hurts. Time to heal takes a long time.
Understanding that concept and learning to live and value each other’s differences can be difficult and complex. Yet, it is this complexity that ultimately creates a beautiful, lasting, fulfilling marriage/relationship. In order to love, we must first accept and commit to our own imperfections and flaws. As we learn to do this, we are better able to adapt and accept our mates and others.
There are so many emotions involved: anger, betrayal, grief, sadness, jealousy, and wanting to retaliate. Most times, affairs are not about the marriage. In fact, it has more to do with the individual needing to feel more confident and secure within himself/herself. Forgiveness is most important when dealing with the aftermath of an affair.
Forgiveness and learning how to rebuild the relationship is only part of a complex healing process.